Never Give Up

When we are little we are told we can do anything. That we can Be Anything. But as we get older we get shot down more and more. We end up getting told what we want to do is  Impossible or Impractical .

Why do people build other people up when they are young, only to tear them down when they get older?

Well, I say whatever you want to do, no matter how impossible or impractical they may be, (as long as they’re legal.) Then go for it! No matter how many times you may be turned down, or told you can’t do it Keep trying and never give up.

The Wright brothers were told Flying was impossible. But now we have Jets and Helicopters that can even fly at night.

Louisa May Alcott when she first tried to get one of her stories  published the publisher sent it back with a note that said “Stick too your teaching Miss Alcott you will never be a writer.” Now there are over 511 stories by her published.


Many people were told they couldn’t do it. But they pushed through that and came out on top. You can too.

Keep your head up, and keep looking toward your goal You can come out on top.  You can FLY!

Love Y’all



We complain when things are not as we want, or as we expected. Sometimes  what we want  and what we need are two very different things.

You may have wanted to go to a concert but you  needed  to save your money for college, or a house.

You may have  wanted  to leave for something early, but couldn’t, and later found that if you had you would have been in that accident you just missed.

Things happen for a reason. whether or not you see the reason right now doesn’t matter. It may not be what you wanted, but  it will be for your good in the end.

Sometimes your blessings come through rain when you wanted sunshine.

“If you’re ever gonna find a silver lining
It’s gotta be a cloudy day
If you wanna fill your bottle up with lightning
You’re gonna have to stand in the rain”

Kasey Musgraves “Silver lining.”

Love Y’All


Divorce: Death and Rebirth

Without getting into the whys and hows and whats, I am in the limbo part of a break up. Limbo, because I am still saving up so I can move out. Meanwhile, I am sleeping on the couch.  I also have a long commute on my city’s freakishly slow bus system. Don’t cry any tears for me.  My worst days are better than the average once were.  There are no bad guys in this. Although, I do feel massive guilt about deciding I wanted to change how things were.

While I am taking inventory, taking mental notes on separating our accounts, and getting ready to turn all the financial planning over, I realize it feels so much like dying. In a way, it is. I have murdered my old self. The person I once was is dead. All I am doing now is setting up the funeral. The woman I am, and have yet to become, is working toward rebirth. A friend of mine compared it to the Phoenix.

There is no way to wax poetic about this process. These are heartbreaking, uncertain times. There are also moments of wonderful realization and happiness. The future is not set in stone and  there are so many possibilities for what can be. This is the first time I have lived in the Now.  While I shed many tears when I think of what was and what I leave behind, I also think of the incredible people I never would have met if my life had stayed the same.

It’s a process of letting go and goodbye, while praying and hoping the rebirth will be an even more Beautiful life.10537117_10153044883181477_2628862186492174926_n

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Telltale Signs that You’re Dating a Geek

When I was in high school I made a wish. From the first moment I saw The Princess Bride, I wanted to find my Westley.  How many guys out there have eyes like the sea after a storm.? It shouldn’t be too hard. I loved fairy tales from childhood. This led to writing a fantasy novel. The Neverending Novel. Not to be mixed up with The Neverending Story. Once finished, Noah Hathaway will not be starring in this and everyone will have a name.  But, I digress. Where was I? Fantasy writing. Truth is, I was not a big fan of fantasy.


When I was 9, the boys I played with were  into The Hobbit. I tried to like it. Really tried.  But, just the thought of hobbits made my head hurt.  Soon, I started to avoid those kinds of boys.  The geeks. The nerds. The uncool. They had their own language; their own scent. They were weird and they spent their time talking about subjects stranger than Star Trek: The Next Generation.


The thing about my generation is the geeks aren’t always the oddball, pimply faced stereotype. They can look in every way like an athlete or an executive. Many times they aren’t even guys, as more girls are discovering their inner geek.  They’re everywhere and by the time a non-geek knows about it, they’ve  been sucked into a weird Bizarro version of the world they can never return from.

Following are some surefire signs that you are dating a geek:

  • Random quotes from Star Wars (or Star Trek, The Princess Bride, Monty Python, Doctor Who, etc.…)   Movie quotes are a part of our pop culture. It’s not unexpected. But, if every conversation generates a random movie quote, whether it relates to the topic or not … you may be dating a geek.
  • Talks about his roleplaying group in present tense  If he/she can tell you the minute details about the Thief he/she played in D&D, even though he/she claims to not have roleplayed in a looooong time (which probably means more than a month ago)… you may be dating a geek.
  • Knows all the lyrics to the D&D song Let’s face it. A non-geek probably has no idea what the D&D song is.
  • Has dice randomly sitting around his/her room Extra points if there are more than 10 non-six sided dice. Double bonus if the dice bag is bigger than a purse.
  • Likes to dress up in costume Halloween is not once a year and he/she does not need a costume party invitation to dress in non-modern clothing. Every day is a day to play a new and exciting character.
  • He/she can tell you more about the intimate lives of comic book super heroes, than he can tell you about his closest friends. When he/she talks about Peter or Bruce with that much intimacy you hope they are talking about Spiderman and Batman.tumblr_mgka358jOn1rfq0ndo1_500
  • He/she is the first person in line for every single Marvel movie. When he said he wanted to take you out to see Avengers you didn’t know you would be sitting outside the theatre for a day and a half.
  • His idea of a fun overnighter is a gaming or comic book convention or worse—a medieval reenactment event Need I say more?
  • You met him/her in your college computer lab before the Internet was the “in” thing This may be a personal thing. This is how I met everyone I know from college. Many actually knew what Linux was and some have IT jobs now. Me? I just thought it was fun to communicate by pushing random buttons on a box and quote Pink Floyd with, “Hello….Is anybody in there?” geeks

So, there you go.  Nine surefire signs you are dating a geek. I will leave Number 10 up to you. What signs let you know you have started walking along the path to geekdom?


God Made Girls

Yay! Kat is back with Teen Tuesday! With a new line of Teen posts based on songs.

Be proud to be a girl. Be proud to be who you are.

But, being proud to be a girl does not mean you need to walk around topless or put down guys for not being girls. Just be who you are, be who you always wanted to be. Shoot for the stars, shoot for the moon, heck shoot for the next galaxy! You can do anything you set your mind to do! Being a girls should never hold you back.

A lot of people complain about only being noticed for their looks, but you can use that to your advantage. Yes they see you for your looks but once they see you show them what else you can do. It can open many doors for you.

Just remember, yes guys were made first, but everyone needs a rough draft. 🙂

Love Y’all

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Are You Afraid to Be Happy?

What is your biggest fear? Heights? Clowns? Losing your family? How about being happy? It sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? We all want to be happy. Who would be silly enough to be afraid of happiness?
azieser-Smiley-Yellow-and-BlackLast week, I was washing dishes before my husband came home. My house smelled of incense, coffee, and lavender. It was a beautiful scent that made me happy, music was playing, and all was well. So, why did my happy dishwashing become more and more worrisome? I worried about if my husband would make it home safely. I worried more when I called his phone and he didn’t answer. When he did call to tell me he was on his way home, I worried when he took 50 minutes to get home, instead of his usual half hour. Once he got home, I was relieved.  What was I so worried about in the first place?


Then, last night. I went to sleep, eager for the morning.

We just got a dryer, so I can finally get through the ginormous pile of laundry and declutter.  As I went to sleep, I thought  about the plans I was making for getting everything tidied and selling what I no longer love, getting my writing projects in order, and what I wanted to do first thing in the morning. I was as excited as a little girl waiting for her birthday.

Then, I went to sleep and woke up. I had a dream about looking at my bedroom window and seeing dancing lights. Or, had the window been dancing. You know how silly dreams are. But, what if it wasn’t a dream? What if I had seen lights and it meant someone had been in my backyard stealing my children’s bikes? After realizing the silliness of that idea, my mind

thought it might great fun to remind me that the

dog had been asleep at bedtime, so hadn’t been taken out.
(a) What if she wakes up in the middle of the night and goes to the bathroom indoors?
or (b) What if she suddenly dies because she didn’t go and had kidney failure? How would we deal with this?

funny-brain-sleepCan anything sound more STUPID? Well, yes, in the light of day, it’s obvious, but in the middle of the night? Hey! Let’s go back to thinking about someone sneaking into my backyard. Maybe they also carted off the ice chests, the lawnmower, and the bench. But, I had to be lying around sleeping.

Obviously, everything in the backyard was untouched and the dog was sleeping on a cushion with her paw over her face.

But, that’s not all. As I make plans to expand my writing projects, I’m considering crowd funding for one and fussing with myself about whether or not to do it. “What if no one donates?” “Is this incredibly stupid to ask my friends and acquaintances for money?”  “How do I write a plan?” “What if…What if…. What if….!?”  There’s that feeling in the pit of my stomach and there is no reason why. Only my own anxiety and fear that I have trained myself to expect the worst for so long.

When people talk about the Law of Attraction, they say we attract what we focus on. Good or bad. Then, we wonder why things don’t get better. It sounds so simple. Focus on what you want and you’ll attract that. Only, there is a part that is so used to holding on to what is expected, anything new is scary. Even Good changes.

Could your Fear of Happiness aka The Unknown Path be standing in your way? What are your thoughts?