Not My Women’s March

I once said that one could be a feminist and not be supportive of abortion. Immediately, I was told all the reasons I was wrong and that feminism was about choice. I still choose not support abortion. I do not judge those who have had to make that choice, but will always encourage other options.
Today’s Spotlight is on a blog  written from a different point of view of the Women’s March. One that is worth the read. ~Lisa

She's All Right

Yesterday I watched as thousands of women descended on our Nation’s Capital for the “Women’s March on Washington.” Women were called together in unity and solidarity, as the organizers of the march claimed to recognize that the diversity and vibrancy of women is what makes our country strong. They claimed that together they would stand for all women, and that together they would represent and defend the most marginalized among us. I’ll admit this sounds pretty good, and maybe even like something I could get behind.

The march’s official website displays the following quote by late feminist Audra Lorde: “It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.” The problem? Diversity is only appreciated and celebrated when it is the right kind of diversity. But what about diversity of thought? These women cannot “recognize, accept, and celebrate” that my thoughts and my beliefs are…

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Body Image

Nowadays everyone is always worried about what they look like.

If they’re skinny enough. If they’re tall enough. If their clothes and makeup are perfect and expensive. But by the standards of the world it will never be “Good enough”.  What the world views as “Perfect” is Always changing.

Comparing yourself to the models in magazines and on billboards and getting upset that you don’t look like them is like comparing yourself to a Barbie doll and getting upset that you don’t look like it.barbie-doll-bodyBecause the pictures in magazines are just as fake as a barbie doll. Even if the article says “Look how comfortable this celebrity is with how they look.”  the picture is still digitally touched up to make them look skinnier or have a better complexion or something.

But just as I am saying you shouldn’t feel bad for not always looking perfect it doesn’t mean you must always wear a potato sack and look like a slob.

It’s good to look nice. It’s good to wear nice clothes, or do your hair, or wear a little makeup. If it makes you happy even better. But you shouldn’t compare what you look like after that to what others look like.

I want to go to beauty school. I want to learn how to do hair and makeup to make people look better. Not because I think they need lots of products to look nice, but because I know from experience that a good look can boast your confidence dramatically.



Makeup and dressing up is fun. But it’s not everything. It is more important to be a good person than it is to look good. I have seen many told they are ugly without makeup, or that they wear too much makeup and look fake. If anybody says that to you then know it is not you that is wrong. They are wrong for not giving you a chance.

Love y’all



We all seem to think we always need to be perfect for everyone. That’s where most of us go wrong and get confused with what WE want to do.

We can never be completely perfect, but we can try our best. Not try our best to be what someone else wants us to be. But what You want You to be.

You don’t have to be what you don’t want to be for anybody, even if they are close to you. You should never change just because someone tells you too. If they say they are giving you advice say thank you then think about, and decide for yourself if it is truly the best thing for you.

No one knows you better then yourself. Even if sometimes you may need to take a day to reintroduce yourself.

There are all kinds of people and we are all different. Nobody should expect you to fit into their little mold.

Never let someone make you feel less of yourself just because you are not what they want.

Love Y’all



Never Give Up

When we are little we are told we can do anything. That we can Be Anything. But as we get older we get shot down more and more. We end up getting told what we want to do is  Impossible or Impractical .

Why do people build other people up when they are young, only to tear them down when they get older?

Well, I say whatever you want to do, no matter how impossible or impractical they may be, (as long as they’re legal.) Then go for it! No matter how many times you may be turned down, or told you can’t do it Keep trying and never give up.

The Wright brothers were told Flying was impossible. But now we have Jets and Helicopters that can even fly at night.

Louisa May Alcott when she first tried to get one of her stories  published the publisher sent it back with a note that said “Stick too your teaching Miss Alcott you will never be a writer.” Now there are over 511 stories by her published.


Many people were told they couldn’t do it. But they pushed through that and came out on top. You can too.

Keep your head up, and keep looking toward your goal You can come out on top.  You can FLY!

Love Y’all



We complain when things are not as we want, or as we expected. Sometimes  what we want  and what we need are two very different things.

You may have wanted to go to a concert but you  needed  to save your money for college, or a house.

You may have  wanted  to leave for something early, but couldn’t, and later found that if you had you would have been in that accident you just missed.

Things happen for a reason. whether or not you see the reason right now doesn’t matter. It may not be what you wanted, but  it will be for your good in the end.

Sometimes your blessings come through rain when you wanted sunshine.

“If you’re ever gonna find a silver lining
It’s gotta be a cloudy day
If you wanna fill your bottle up with lightning
You’re gonna have to stand in the rain”

Kasey Musgraves “Silver lining.”

Love Y’All


Telltale Signs that You’re Dating a Geek

When I was in high school I made a wish. From the first moment I saw The Princess Bride, I wanted to find my Westley.  How many guys out there have eyes like the sea after a storm.? It shouldn’t be too hard. I loved fairy tales from childhood. This led to writing a fantasy novel. The Neverending Novel. Not to be mixed up with The Neverending Story. Once finished, Noah Hathaway will not be starring in this and everyone will have a name.  But, I digress. Where was I? Fantasy writing. Truth is, I was not a big fan of fantasy.


When I was 9, the boys I played with were  into The Hobbit. I tried to like it. Really tried.  But, just the thought of hobbits made my head hurt.  Soon, I started to avoid those kinds of boys.  The geeks. The nerds. The uncool. They had their own language; their own scent. They were weird and they spent their time talking about subjects stranger than Star Trek: The Next Generation.


The thing about my generation is the geeks aren’t always the oddball, pimply faced stereotype. They can look in every way like an athlete or an executive. Many times they aren’t even guys, as more girls are discovering their inner geek.  They’re everywhere and by the time a non-geek knows about it, they’ve  been sucked into a weird Bizarro version of the world they can never return from.

Following are some surefire signs that you are dating a geek:

  • Random quotes from Star Wars (or Star Trek, The Princess Bride, Monty Python, Doctor Who, etc.…)   Movie quotes are a part of our pop culture. It’s not unexpected. But, if every conversation generates a random movie quote, whether it relates to the topic or not … you may be dating a geek.
  • Talks about his roleplaying group in present tense  If he/she can tell you the minute details about the Thief he/she played in D&D, even though he/she claims to not have roleplayed in a looooong time (which probably means more than a month ago)… you may be dating a geek.
  • Knows all the lyrics to the D&D song Let’s face it. A non-geek probably has no idea what the D&D song is.
  • Has dice randomly sitting around his/her room Extra points if there are more than 10 non-six sided dice. Double bonus if the dice bag is bigger than a purse.
  • Likes to dress up in costume Halloween is not once a year and he/she does not need a costume party invitation to dress in non-modern clothing. Every day is a day to play a new and exciting character.
  • He/she can tell you more about the intimate lives of comic book super heroes, than he can tell you about his closest friends. When he/she talks about Peter or Bruce with that much intimacy you hope they are talking about Spiderman and Batman.tumblr_mgka358jOn1rfq0ndo1_500
  • He/she is the first person in line for every single Marvel movie. When he said he wanted to take you out to see Avengers you didn’t know you would be sitting outside the theatre for a day and a half.
  • His idea of a fun overnighter is a gaming or comic book convention or worse—a medieval reenactment event Need I say more?
  • You met him/her in your college computer lab before the Internet was the “in” thing This may be a personal thing. This is how I met everyone I know from college. Many actually knew what Linux was and some have IT jobs now. Me? I just thought it was fun to communicate by pushing random buttons on a box and quote Pink Floyd with, “Hello….Is anybody in there?” geeks

So, there you go.  Nine surefire signs you are dating a geek. I will leave Number 10 up to you. What signs let you know you have started walking along the path to geekdom?