“And she said, ‘kindness is magic, Derek. It’s more important to be kind than clever or good-looking.’ I’m not clever or good-looking, but I’m kind.” ~Derek
For years, I thought Kindness was a weakness. I was told I was “too nice” and noticed it was always the rude and uncaring who won the day. Ever see the “bitches” of world and wonder why guys fall all over them? I can’t give you an answer on that, but I can tell you Kindness given to Kind people is NOT a weakness. It’s the greatest strength you can ever use.
Kindness doesn’t have to be something grandeous. One of my “when I get rich” dreams is leaving that $1000 tip for great service, anonymously giving a struggling family the extra money they need to pay the bills, or … well, I have a list I think of when I hear stories on the news.
But, we don’t have to be rich to make a difference. Something as simple as a smile or a compliment can turn someone’s day around. I never give compliments lightly. When I say I like that dress, or the song you were singing, when you thought no one was paying attention sounds beautiful, I mean it. It’s surprising how many look taken aback and slightly confused when given a compliment. It shouldn’t be that rare of an occurrence.
The more I practice kindness, just to be kind, the more I notice the good in others and find it reciprocated. Genuine kindness can make shy people talkative, grumpy people into friends, and it can even save your ass, when you think you’re out of options.
The other day I messed up. I mean, really messed up. I was expecting my husband’s check to be direct deposited, but it wasn’t set to go in until the next day. A number of transactions were pending and I knew I wouldn’t only be overdrawn, but would be negative the check. I drove my humbled self to the bank and asked to speak to the bank manager.
The teller asked what I needed, so she could direct me to who I needed to speak to. I told my story of blunder to the teller, her supervisor, and, finally, the branch manager, Sheena. I said I was fine with the pending transactions. My main worry was the amount of the Insufficient Funds Fees. She assured me that I was not the only one to do this, then said, “Because you’re so awesome, all the fees have been taken off. You can sleep well, tonight.” Her real words. She said many times customers will be angry at the bank and come in yelling at them. Because, I was so nice about everything, she helped me and gave me her card, in case I needed anything in the future.
The key to getting what you want is definitely assertiveness, but kindness is the magic that makes the world a better place.